This is the intention of God for all we. That let us live happy and let us serve it with joy and newness of life, creating our children in subjection and fear. Gn.2: 18 Ec.9: 9 it does not have marriage without problems. All marriage demands renounces and adaptation. No marriage survives without pardon and restoration. It is common soon to appear crises at the beginning of the conjugal life.

Here we will detach only two, that undeniably they are very difficult to be vanquished. The first crisis is of the ADAPTATION. First months years of the conjugal life nor always are so romantic as they would have to be for some couples. (According to some specialists in the family area, the period of conjugal adaptation can lead up to five years). The way as they had been educated, its temperamentais customs, habits and oscillations can be .causing reasons of disharmony between both.

This first crisis can easily be won since that both are turned toward the habit to dialogue, to be respected, to pray together, to frequent with regularity the church and to be affectionate mutually. I PE.5: 7 Ef.5: 25 Ef.5: 22 Second crisis is of DESMOTIVAO, is natural the frustration ahead of certain attitudes, behaviors and expressions of the loved person. Slowly the castle starts to pull down itself, a thousand thoughts passes for the head; to finish with everything or to continue a little more? In the height of happiness of the perspectives of a happy marriage certain details had not been observed, and even though valued. With passing of the days the things start if to funnel; the loss of the passion, the absence of the affection, the lack of stimulatons, the distanciamentos, the inversions of the priorities and the mutismo are the necessary ingredients for finally to any romance. Evidently also males exists cure for these. Everything can move when both decide to dialogue with maturity, without aggressions, critical collections or. For two people to walk together is necessary to be in agreement. By this all effort must be envidado for the maintenance of the marriage. Am.3: 3. The reevaluations of the values, the ideals of the couple, the possible changes of both parts, are wise decisions that the couple can take jointly and search of God the favour to surpass the challenges.

It cools the climate and of a form all special one, in provides the welfare to them in the sunny days. Other times, as whip on the humanity, with vehemence and random comes bringing destruction and death for where it passes. Nobody knows of where it came, that way covered or for where goes. The wind is one mistrio.’ ‘ As well as you do not know which the way of the wind ‘ ‘ (Ecl.11: 5) In many cases the wind represents ackward situations in our lives. For that is common hearing: ‘ ‘ I am passing for one vento’ ‘. Problems in the life of the people happen who nor always have logical explanations. The times are diseases who appear unexpectedly causing concern, suffering, pain.

This is a terrible wind. Of ahead certain males completely in we feel them impotent. How to hinder the action it wind? Mr. Jesus is only capable to make to stop it! ‘ ‘ those men if had astonished, saying: That man is this, that until the winds and the sea they obey to it? ‘ ‘ (Mt.8: 27). the Word of God also remembers in them a terrible storm that destroyed the children of J patriarch, killing them instantaneously: ‘ ‘ Here it is that a great sobreveio wind dalm of the desert, and gave in the four cantos of the house, which fell on the lovers and had died ‘ ‘ (J 1:19). it is therefore that the Word of God recommends in them hiding in them in the hiding place of the Highest one, (Sl.91: 1) and also in (Is.32: 2) confirm, saying: ‘ ‘ will be that man as a hiding place against the wind, and a shelter against the storm ‘ ‘ For this, loved reading, nothing in this world capable does not exist to substitute the communion with God and the benefits happened of it.

Jesus Christ is ours high hiding place and aid property in possession in the hour of the anguish. Unfortunate persons are those that do not have where if to hide! Familiar religions, traditions, wealth and fame do not eliminate the fury of ‘ ‘ ventos’ ‘ caused for The Satan. This world if divides in two peoples: Those that are ‘ ‘ escondidos’ ‘ in Christ and those that not yet are. Daily we hear the news on catastrophes, crimes, accidents and as much other things that devastate the humanity; many are consoled by Mr., others titubeiam in search of the peace, without knowing what to make of the proper life. They are in these adverse situations that we can contemplate the difference between that they serve the God and those that does not serve. Evidently, ‘ ‘ ventos’ ‘ we arrive at the yard of all, however, with joy we will be able to continue repeating the words of the salmista Davi: ‘ ‘ Much peace has the ones that love your law, and for they do not have tropeo’ ‘ (Sl.119: 165) (extracted of the book BANISHING the SPIRIT FROM MISERY AND DEFEAT, of the shepherd Valdemir C.Rocha).

In her the importance of the assertive procedures is indicated to treat psychological disorders of type and people who present/display inhibition, and includes the exercises that must be put in practice in this procedure which is enunciated in brief form next. 1. – The use to express the feelings. 2. – The use of the face expression.

3. – The practice to express an opposite opinion when it is of discord. 4. – The practice of the use of the first person. 5. – The practice to accept praises. – Lauge and Laurubowsvi (1976), Identify four basic elements for the assertive training.

a) To teach to people to differentiate between aggression and assertiveness, and the lack of assertiveness and educated being. b) To help the people to identify and to accept its personal rights as much as the other. c) To reduce the cognitive and affective obstacles, to be able to act assertively. (Ex: Irrational thoughts, feelings of fault, rage or excessive anxiety). d) To develop assertive abilities through active methods of practice. – Rich and Schroeder (1976), raise that diverse forms of training in assertiveness exist, between which they are: Constructive hierarchic presentation of situations of stimuli, moldeamientos, critics, game of rolls, test of rolls, retort of answers, practice of answers, allocation of tasks for the home, training in the vocal and postural analysis, exhortation, exaggeration of rolls, instructions, external reinforcing and autorreforzamiento. – Perez, E. (1985) considered that since does not exist a common package of training and in term of functionality, the training procedures can be classified in some of the following categories: 1. – Operations of acquisition of answers. Following the cause that produces the lack of assertiveness, it is recommended to use the procedure of lack of inhibition of the inhibited assertive answers, training in discrimination or learnings of new answers for intense emotional and cognitive situations, absence of ability to detect situations that respectively require effective answers or deficiency in the individual behavioural repertoire.